You say, “Of course, no problem.”

Then you spend the rest of the day wishing you’d said no.

Now you’re committed, exhausted and annoyed. But somehow, disappointing yourself felt easier than disappointing them.

I spent ten years getting paid to talk for a living. And somehow, I couldn’t tell people what I actually wanted.

Imagine having a microphone for a decade and still being terrified to use your own voice.

In this episode of Get In, We’re Done Settling, I’m sharing how I started breaking the habit of being the easygoing one at my own expense.

We’re talking about:

• Being confident at work but struggling to express your needs at home.
• Saying yes to avoid an uncomfortable conversation, then carrying the resentment.
• Losing touch with what you want because you’re always considering everyone else first.
• How going dancing once a week became a non-negotiable act of choosing myself.
• Setting boundaries without needing everyone to approve.
• A simple sentence to practise before you give another automatic yes.

If you rehearse saying no, panic about their reaction and end up agreeing anyway, this episode is for you.

Here’s somewhere to start:

“Let me think about that and get back to you.”

Give yourself a minute to hear your own answer. Do you want to say yes? Or are you afraid of what will happen if you don’t?

You can care about people and still have limits. You can respect their needs and make room for your own.

You might have to disappoint some people to stop disappointing yourself.

I had the voice. What I didn’t have was the permission.

💜 START BREAKING THE CYCLE

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